Improper introductions
For example, I hate it when people say things like, "this is his wife", like I don't have a freakin name of my own...that bugs the hell out of me!
Nosey Inquiries
I bugs me even more when people want to know how I acquired something that I have as if I'm not qualified to get it...I'm not so much offended as pissed off!
I need more than one companion....I couldn't imagine being around the same person every day, all day, 365 days a year! That is too much! I like being with my family....its too damn many of us to just settle for one companion.
Muscular Guy with Tight Shirt!
If that type of guy is coming towards me, I'm heading for the door quick...from experience, his ego is usually bigger than that damn enormous bicep and shirt is wound up tighter than his personality. Not all muscle bound tight shirt guys fall into this category tho!
Friend Flips Out!
Imagine this...everything is all well at the club. Everyone is laughing, drinking, and dancing up a storm because the DJ is playin the Sh^%...
Its crowded so everybody is kinda squeezing by, but somehow your friend feels totally disrespected because some innoncent party-goer just bumped them to hard.
Now drinks are flying, hair is being pulled, and the 'designated fighter' friend has to jump in to throw blows to keep the drunken sh%$-starting friend from getting the crap beaten out of them.
So before the fight kicks off, grab the drunken friend and get little!
I'm not or have I ever been a weed smoker, but I have always suspected that there would be a tax increase if weed is legalized. I could be wrong, but I think the "powers that be" can't really figure out how to properly tax the ever so popular plant...that's why its still illegal.
As far as weed being a gateway drug, I'm not really convinced of theory...the validity of the "increases in other drug use" statement is debatable. I know people who've been smoking for years. Its there drug of choice...they haven't entered into this so called gateway, but in defense of this theory....I do know some who have. So as I said before, its debatable.
There are so many ways that people are breeding and cultivating this stuff that I can't imagine that the goverment can figure this out...hell, they can't figure out things that are a lot simpler! The stuff has flavors and other crap put into to that smells like it can knock out a horse! I for one, can't mess with the stuff...if I were to get contact, I'm flying...and the strongest drink I can handle is Arbor Mist...lol
At times, I think it should be legal....tobacco is a killer...alcohol is the biggest killer....prescription drugs are killing people too! Along with other stuff people are sniffing and inhaling....
My point is not to condone another potentially deadly drug into our society...my point is that (to me) it makes no sense not to legalize when so many people legally allowed to purchase and enjoy alcohol and cigarettes that are proven just a bad...
Whether is Ganja...dro, bud..weed..sticky...fire, purple or whatever new name that comes up...people are getting blowed anyway...may it legal...or not.
I'm not too particular one way or the other!
Another thing...I think alot of weed smokers are confused about this subject also...I think many would like to smoke freely, but I don't think they would be happy with taxes being put on their favorite pastimes. lol
I grew up on the westside of Chicago...a concrete jungle of sorts. The basketball hoops had no nets; the swing sets had no swings; and if you did a 360 turn you would see more concrete than you would trees or flowers.
Where I come from...there weren't many flowers. With the expection of my grandmother, who took the time to plant a few beauties in her garden. along with tomatoes and herbs. Other than that, there were no flowers that I saw growing...only weeds growing between the cracks in the concrete....so when I got older and began to venture out into the world on my own, I discovered many other things that this world had to offer, and nature happens to be one of them.
I had a chance to visit the Chicago Botanical Gardens, and here's a small part of what I thought:
Breathtakingly...beautiful. Those are the only words that come to mind when describing the Chicago Botanic Gardens.
The experience there is so serene. Walking through the gardens, taking in all of the beauty allowed me to take in nature in a way that I hadn't experience before.
There are over 350 acres of land with 23 displays that change with the seasons. Waterways and walkways enhance the experience there. There are opportunities to shop, dine, and relax at cafe while you are there. I would recommend it to someone visit. It's been a few years since I've been, but I'm confident that its still perfect.
When I had the opportunity to visit the gardens, it opened me up to a new appreciation to the beauty of flowers and plants. I still can't properly take care of them on my own, but I have a heartfelt appreciation for the beauty of nature.
A Day without Politicians
...and without warning, every one of the self-righteous politicians thrust themselves into the Red Sea, never to be heard from again! There was an eerie silence...nowhere was there a democrat, or republican, an independent, or a reformer...no aldermen, no mayors...not a single politican.
...later in the story....it became apparent that the children had the power to lead our nation....
Make It Work! You Deserve It!
Respect each others need for space
In my opinon, spending every waking moment with your significant other doesn't give the other the time to identify with their own individual needs.
Maybe not, I could be wrong. For example, I have an aunt whose been married to her husband for 25 years. They do everything together, with the exception of work. It seems to work for them because they are in tune with one another on that level.
I, on the other hand need space to do my own things, which turn out believe it or not, are a simple as reading a book or watching a movie, alone.
Date each other.
Go out on dates like you've first met. Keep a level of "new-ness", it keeps me satisfy
Keep yourself up...
You don't have to be a spring chicken, but don't turn unrecognizable. When we hit a certain age, things start happening to our bodies that we can't control....things sag, protrude, or go away all together, but that's apart of growing old. But, despite all that we can keep it together.
For all those, who are a little more vain...go nip and tuck it!
My philosophy...Stay true...all that plastic is for dolls.
Say something
Ladies....men don't think like we think! Say what you mean...even if they understand they will play dumb!
In defense of the men, sometimes that really don't know where we are coming from...give them some slack spell it out!
Have fun! Take Responsibility!
Don't be a stick in the mud! Have fun, laugh, play and enjoy life, but remember what counts. Life is short...if you're lucky enough to have a family, enjoy it with them, as well as, do what is needed to ensure they have a comfortable life.
The Color Purple is a classic....I use to be able to quote many lines from the movie, but I need to refresh my memory....if you haven't seen it you should!
I'm not sure if this is correct, but here goes:
...."all my life I had to fight!...I had to fight my brothers, I had to fight my uncles...girl child just ain't safe in a house full of men...I never thought I had to fight in my own house! I loves Harpo, God knows I do...but I'll kill him dead fo' I let him beat me.
.....you need to bash Mr.'s head open and think about heaven later....
Some songs go...some songs stay...
Then there are those that should stay away....lol...lame.
Imagine being sixteen years old...hating your very first job...and you are being tortured by the constant bellowing of this song. I promise, it makes me cringe to this day to hear it.
I worked at Toy's R Us, restocking massive amounts of toys...the "work" was redundant, and that song was on REPEAT...it played constantly, I began to think there was some form of subliminal message or something!
Okay, when I first heard the song, I absolutely hated it! Then, it grew on me...I wouldn't say I love it, but its cool to listen to when you're feeling like doing the seat dance on the highway....anyway, what I hate is the word SWAG. That word should be outlawed....its like rappers and wannabes got smacked in the head, and suddenly they assumed that they had swagger..its ridiculous...
Not to take anything away from Soulja Boy...shoot, he's making moves that I can never make. Plus, I think he's good for his particular audience. It's the word "swag" that pisses me off...mostly.
Endless Love by Diana Ross & Lionell Richie
The song itself is very beautiful, endearing even, but I've almost heard it at every wedding that I've ever attending....geez! One time I had to sit through my aun't drunken rendition....I don't like it anymore because I'm sick of it!
Loving everything about yourself...can help you sustain a healthy relationship.
For 13 years, I've been in a relationship that is constantly withstanding some issue or another. Good and bad...less of the latter is what keeps up together. I firmly believe that because we both have our individual things that we like to do with our lives is how we make it work.
We have plenty of the same interests, but at the same time there are things that I don't wish to involve myself in that he likes. I understand his male needs...such as, his urge to watch a never-ending game of football with his friends...that's completely fine with me. But, I want the same understanding when I'm reading a good book and don't want to be bothered!
He is a hard worker...he's away from home a lot....it was hard for me to deal with during our early years together, but as I became more mature, and more in tune with myself, I realized that he's out there hustling for our family...In fact, just this morning, I sent him a text and told him that I appreciate him for putting in work for our family.
He's also a good motivator, what every I choose to do with my life, he's behind me 100%....
Hey...this is not a fairy tale. He gets on my nerves a lot! One of those things is as soon as I sit down, he asks me to get him something....that bugs the heck outta me sometimes. But I do it...because he will do it for me.
I know now, something that I didn't know years ago..how to balance things. He works hard, but we also play hard when we can! In the meantime....if he's not home, we "kissing through the phone", sending texts, pics and just expressing our committment to one another.
This is often.....to end, we still like each other!
Love and Admiration
My grandmother, Ruby G.
Her strong will...she has the ability to withstand many things....She was became parentless when she was seven years old...she was left to fend for herself. She made it through, but not without struggle....
I also admire her straightforwardness....she pulls out all the punches if there is something to say, she doesn't believe in sugar coating anything. She is determined to be heard.
What I wish, is for her to realize her greatness....
My mother, Gwen
My mother is a recreation of my grandmother. She is a very strong woman. This woman hardly ever tires out, she is constantly going...and its at a moments notice most times.
She is always there when someone needs a favor, and i can honestly say that she has saved every one in our immediate family in some way shape or form....
